Yep spot on. I love the stretch and I also love feeling completely full like to the point that not another mm could go in. My favorite dildo is the XXXCalibur, its 13.5" insertable and quite heavy so when you are backing onto it for the first time I push myself up against it with the tip on my hole, then push back a little more to make it to bend upwards a bit, which puts a lot of weight behind the knob and I close my eyes and feel it pushing my arsehole open and going in, rather than me backing onto it. Thats just the first hurdle. Then the second sphincter must be gone through, it's either got to happen pretty quickly or it wont happen I find, so I usually put a lot of weight behind it, this is where the pain comes, I love the pain too, but only until you get through the other side cause then its that euphoric stretch that triggers your fi g ht or flight. It feels like it's pushing the two sides of my body apart at this point and I can barely keep thoughts together. Theres a corner around here and a bit of maneuvering gets it around and when you've got it going up there holy fuck. That's when you realise just how fucking deep this thing is up you, and just how fat it is. I'm usually leaking cum at this point. Your dearly departed husband sounds like he knew how to get off, and it sounds like you helped him very successfully!